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Family is the foundation of everyone’s life. Even orphans who have lost their biological family at a young age are initially brought into the world by their mothers and fathers, and they will embark on the path of exploring their own families in the future. In life, no one can avoid the learning and challenges associated with family issues. Everyone has the opportunity to create and experience the happiness and warmth of a family. Unfortunately, modern culture and educational systems do not provide a thorough education on this topic. As a result, most people unconsciously cycle through family entanglements, events, and love/hate relationships based on their own instincts and the dynamics behind their families.
To address this issue and bring a clearer perspective, in the third lecture of the Diamond Class, Teacher Chou Ting Wen designed a thematic learning module focused on creating family happiness. Recognizing that solving the dynamics of a family alone may not be enough to fulfill the need for happiness, this session not only delves into traditional dynamics but also supplements all the concepts, knowledge, and actionable insights necessary to promote family well-being. This ensures that participants, having cleared away previous uncertainties, possess the right mindset, knowledge, and a clear direction to confidently pursue their ideal happiness.
What’s the secret to creating a happy family?
Teacher Chou said: Recognize the ‘good’, ‘heart’ and ‘force’!
What does that mean? It's about seeing each other's 'good,' seeing the 'heart' of it, and recognizing the systemic 'force' at play. All family issues revolve around these three key aspects. Through the examples and practical exercises in the classroom, we see that some participants who frequently receive certain actions and words, do not feel they are an expression of love. But in the eyes of other participants, these very same actions and words are an indication of gratitude, happiness, and love. So why can't they feel it? It is because they do not know how to consciously notice the ‘heart’ and open their inner eyes to understand each other’s intentions. It's easy to misinterpret with the added influence of systemic dynamics. Love can be misunderstood as a hindrance, turning love into hatred. What was intended as an exchange of love and goodwill turns into a regrettable situation, ultimately becoming the last straw that breaks the camel's back. How unfortunate! We've all heard friends tell us that they didn't understand the value of love until they lost it! With the guidance and teachings from the teacher in class, we learn to see, learn, and act appropriately. This enables us to interact and express ourselves with the right perspective, language, and actions. From now on, we can constantly feel love, cherish love, and no longer cause regrets.
Apart from recognizing the ‘good’, ‘heart’ and ‘force’, Teacher Chou also introduced the action-oriented approach of 'Dare to Rebel' (敢造反, gǎn zào fǎn) to help families achieve greater stability and harmony. But what does 'Dare to Rebel' mean? ‘Dare' (敢, gǎn) takes the homophony of '感' (gǎn), signifying gratitude and respect. It encourages heartfelt gratitude and respect for each other's responsibilities, destinies, and boundaries. 'Create' (造, zào) represents the cultivation of joy, emphasizing that happiness doesn't just happen but requires intentional efforts to create and sustain joy and delight. We expand everyday beautiful memories and connections through this. Lastly, 'Reflect' (反, fǎn) encourages introspection and self-awareness. It urges individuals to release thoughts of complaint, contemplate the lessons to be learned from people or situations, and shift focus from circling around problems to concentrating on constructive solutions. Through this, one can improve strained family relationships and initiate the creation of new, positive connections between oneself and family members.
In addition to the secrets mentioned above, Teacher Chou has a wealth of insights and perspectives, such as the sandwich communication style, the true meaning and practices of self-love, the three-word mantra 'give it a listen', and more. Many seniors of the workshop also shared their experiences during class breaks. Due to the limited space in this course report, we won't share each one here. If you're interested in gaining a deeper understanding, feel free to join our 4th Diamond Class to personally explore! Additionally, in the next part of this course report, we will share some common yet profoundly impactful family dynamics. For those of you who love to learn and want to create greater happiness, remember to stay tuned to TAOS Education and follow our updates!